Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Insecurity Makes Us Say and Do Things We Regret

Harvard’s suggestion on how to get rid of it.

In case you missed it, last week was the start of something new on my Daily Dose of Growth podcast. My wife, the lovely Dawn and I interviewing each other and we are keeping it real (blush!).  

I won’t ruin the podcast for you, but back in college, I became pretty popular. However, I was still very insecure deep inside. It led me to act in ways that I regret. Having struggled with it for years, I can now recognize it easily in others. If you struggle in this area, or know someone who does, check out this research.

According to Harvard Business Review, insecurity comes from wanting to fit in or be accepted. It’s often an outcome of the environment you’re in. Here are five quick points on how you can remove insecurity at your workplace.

  • Give positive feedback. Some people only comment when something goes wrong. Don’t be that person! Catch someone doing something good—and say something!
  • Insecurity comes in many forms… and is often caused by something else going on. Care enough to ask how someone is doing.
  • Give opportunities for continuous learning. Growth slays insecurity.
  • Cultivate trust. Usually that starts with a strong person becoming vulnerable. You go first!
  • Assign someone struggling to guide, Mentor a newbie, offer help to give people the “shot in the arm” they need to get back on track.

The article ends with a great summary: “ …start to care more for each other.” 

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