You’ve probably heard this before: “It doesn’t matter how many times you fall, it matters if you get back up.” It’s when you “keep getting up” or “keep bouncing back” that you have resilience—a very admirable trait.

But in neuroscience, from your brain’s perspective, you must look at this as BOUNCING FORWARD not BOUNCING BACK.

Instead of going back to where you were before you, learn from the setback. In John Maxwell’s words, you learn to fail forward. You become a better version of yourself as a result.

Here’s some AWESOME news: Research says, resilience can be developed! We have the great Martin Seligman (a legend in leadership studies) to thank for this! 

Here are some quick tips to guide you in strengthening your resiliency:
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1. Keep in mind, there are other people who have gone through these issues. You can learn from others’ mistakes.
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2. Acknowledge the issue or the failure! Be honest, but move on and don’t dwell on it. Mindset is a major part of growth and when you see the learning opportunity—that’s when you move forward.
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3. Reflect on the fact that progress (no matter how small or big!) is a positive thing. Celebrate any progress.
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4. What did you actually learn? Make a list and refer back to it. Great news: you learned something.
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5. Focus on what will be different next time. You’re a better version of yourself! Congrats... and keep growing.

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These 5 tips can be summarized into one key trait: FOCUS ON POSITIVITY. Being optimistic is essential during tough times.

When bad things happen to me, I always say, “If that’s the worst part of my year, this will be my best year ever!“ [TWEET].

You can change your outlook and your resilience. I’m rooting for you!

Dr. ROB
‍rob@leadertribe.com

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